We all have a tolerance for things that suck. Some have a small tolerance, some large, but we all have it.
How do you know how big or small your tolerance is?
Emotional flexibility is a good gauge.
As a quick thought experiment, think of the last time something didn’t go your way. Think about how you reacted (or responded). From an outsider’s perspective, give yourself a simple grade of your behavior: you sucked (had a hissy fit, perhaps), did okay (harbored some anger but generally made the most of it), or crushed it (grew from the adversity).
You have. I have. Your parents and teachers and favorite writers have.
When we have a goal, emotions can be blinding. While we know anger and resentment can dig our grave, it’s equally as likely that we can be seduced into complacency by emotions like joy and comfort.
It’s here we take breaks, convince ourselves rest is the key. It’s here we over-focus on the sunset-feelings when it’s not even noon. We think recovery rather than recalibrate and reengage.
If we’re relying on emotion, we’re not properly engaging with the universal fact that goals don’t care about our…
You know the difference already, I know you do. But here’s the technical definition anyway: responding is a calm, rational approach to any given problem and reacting to something usually results in a shit-show.
The work to be done here is in the application of this knowledge, not just knowing.
Because let’s be real, knowing a bunch of stuff and letting it sit inside your head doesn’t lead to the change you want. Raw change comes from raw work, not clever puns or pithy one-liners.
So let’s get real.
You’ve got issues. So do I. So do your family members…
We had a general rule in the Marines: “Leave the place cleaner than you found it.” It’s simple, to the point and easy to understand.
Similarly, this article aims to make our country a little healthier than we found it. It’ll focus on three things:
The way we see health — at least in America —isn’t very simple or effective at the moment. We’re wrapped up in complicated health…
Since the pandemic hit there’s been a reasonable increase in health-minded behavior. But there’s also been an insidious rise in nonsense around how to achieve a sustainably healthy life.
This article is intended to throw a few rocks at that nonsense and offer viable alternatives to those who are willing to commit to health.
Fitness, arguably the industry that should be spearheading how to get healthy, went up in sales but stumbled in integrity.
Instead of promoting long term principles of health — which are rarely comfortable or cozy — there’s been a general push for instant gratification and sales-driven…
Right to the point: Meaning and function are the missing ingredients.
With all our fancy gadgets in the modern world, suicide is the second leading cause of death for 15–29 year olds and obesity rose from about 30% to about 40% in the opening two decades of this century.
Soft addictions like sugar, entertainment and chronic anxiety are setting up an entire generation for failure.
I love this country, but we’ve got some cleaning up to do.
It’s pretty clear at this point that shiny pieces of equipment and Wi-Fi fitness gadgets aren’t the superheroes we needed. One might say…
Fill in the blank. Angry, tired, pissed, resentful, hopeless, intimidated. Anything.
Any time you say “I feel” without the intent to understand and deal with that emotion, it’s just an emotion. A pool of feelings in your head you’ll marinade in until it either blows over or you act on it.
Does that mean the feeling’s bad? No. It’s not good or bad, actually, it’s just a feeling. Not trying to be callous here, but your goals don’t care about your feelings.
My goals certainly don’t.
Feeling and emotions are rich sources of information, and it’s important we treat them…
Do more with less.
That was the response we got when we didn’t have gear in the Marines but still needed to get the job done. That’s the hard lesson millions of people, you and me included, are running into with our fitness goals.
No more shiny equipment, buzzing environment for motivation or wondering if that dude’s going to clean off the bench he just sopped all over before you hop on.
I’d argue this is all a very good thing, and here’s why.
Resiliency is a muscle, and if you don’t actively train it your fitness goals are doomed…
So you want to get in shape. For a host of 2020-like reasons (or perhaps completely unrelated reasons) you’re not going to the gym for an in-person trainer — yet you know you could benefit from one.
You do a Google search.
Up pops a plethora of ads assuring you that the six pack and godlike muscles are one purchase away — if you’re lucky, you may even stumble upon a discount (only if you click now, though).
Before you pull the trigger, chill for a second.
This article is written for people who genuinely want to become a better…
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